Narcissistic Personality Disorder and sex, and more

The sexual relationship with the narcissist is most peculiar. Narcissists are exhibitionists and sex is just one further means of being admired to her or him. There does not exist intimacy and you will frequently feel used. The narcissist will demand that you subdue yourself. Your own sexual preferences will be boycotted or twisted. Narcissists have a strong tendency to sexually abuse a partner and children. Here is a list of some of these abusive behaviors:

Narcissistic Personality Disorder and sex

The sexual relationship with the narcissist is most peculiar. Narcissists are exhibitionists and sex is just one further means of being admired to her or him. There does not exist intimacy and you will frequently feel used. The narcissist will demand that you subdue yourself. Your own sexual preferences will be boycotted or twisted. Narcissists have a strong tendency to sexually abuse a partner and children. Here is a list of some of these abusive behaviors:

  • You are prohibited from masturbating or feel good about your own body under the threat of punishment
  • You are being made to watch porn although you don’t want to
  • You are not allowed any sexual gratification yourself
  • The narcissist pretends to be sexual for you but is after her/his gratification only
  • Your sexual past is being torn apart
  • You are being told that all you want is sex (although you know this is not the case, however sex is central to the narcissist)
  • The narcissist instigates sex (like telling you erotic things and sending you pictures or emails which are sexual) but then decides last minute that nothing is to take place or simply demands abusive sex
  • The narcissist abuses you while you are asleep (sleep rape)
  • You are being raped on a daily basis
  • You are feeling humiliated and yet the narcissist claims that (s)he has been humiliated
  • The narcissist finds it funny when you get hurt and enjoys it when you get hurt, this can be physically or emotionally
  • The narcissist instigates and turns everything into a sexual game
  • The narcissist demands prolonged sex way above the limit you can handle nor want to
  • The narcissist tells you that you want to have sexual relations with everybody although the narcissist has a strong tendency to flirt with others and to be infidel
  • You are being told off for the fact that you were flirting with someone although you are not flirting at all
  • The narcissist makes fun of your sexuality in front of others (e.g. you have a small penis or small breasts)
  • The narcissist demands sex when you make it clear that you don’t want to
  • The narcissist has to try out everything possible
  • The narcissist is an exhibitionist and will want sex in public and dresses inappropriately at home and or elsewhere

There is another form of sexual abuse. In fact, so I believe, it is the most common one, and hence it took me so long to get it. This form of abuse comes in four stages:

  • Firstly, the victim will be forced to reveal her or his sexual preferences and experiences to the perpetrator.
  • Secondly, the perpetrator will condition the victim to direct her or his entire sexuality towards the perpetrator. At this stage, the sexual relationship is intense.
  • Thirdly, the perpetrator reduces the intensity of the sexual relationship dramatically, so that the victim is in constant sexual need.
  • Fourthy, the perpetrator grants inproper sexual gratification in order to maintain the sexual need of the victim. Now, the victim, who is (sexually) dependent on the perpetrator, can be humiliated, manipulated and used.

Dr. Ludger Hofmann-Engl

The narcissist/psychopath will use mind games to play you like a fiddle. Just when you get close to figuring them out they shape-shift again, spin more lies, all in an attempt to distract you from what they are really up to, and that’s no good.

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