This is a very true statement as unhealed folks often project
it is you who lacks .. better to not take it personally .
Now a very large part of my ‘craziness ‘ was not being heard,
nurtured per our needs , our mother’s instinct , was not encouraged
through education , support by other women waned as the work
force integrated women , but still discriminates openly as it is
accepted and embraced , but often denied as abusive .
In my research and experience a couscous man wants his best
reflected in his beloved and hurting her would be hurting himself
and ditto for his children .
It is the imbalance of personal ‘power’ or space that has eroded our
families as the sources of support began the me , me me . it is all
about “Me” That indeed looks like the narcissistic, sociopath , psychopath
the could well have unhealed trauma , as I did , but will never address it
for looking inward is the trauma or the disorder that does not know nor
accept responsibility for anything , never forgives and is greedy and fierce
for eternity as the ultimate judge, jury and executioner . Supported as if
a cult as referenced in Freedom of Mind by Steven Hassan , an expert on
the topic as a former “Moonie” he is director the Freedom of Mind
Resource center , Inc. (www.freedomofmind.com) a center dedicated to
helping families and individuals , and to informing the public about
destructive and deceptive influence practices .36 years of experience
and he refers to the abuse of children through the abuse , alienation,
disposal and denial of any responsibility, only projections of blame
and shame which is never ending; yet professionals who are supposed
to know , do not thereby seeming to support the abuse.
I have discovered through a Dr. Steve Miller as he testified in a hearing
which is on youtube that the educational material that guides professionals
is incorrect for todays world , and as you can imagine he was not warmly
received for suggesting change that is in the best interest of families ,
especially children whose only basic need is “Do you hear me, Do you see
me , Do I matter?” Lack of education, support as well as the environmental
issues and unhealthy nutritional ‘chemicals ‘ as well as human made chemicals
referred to as “medicine” has deeply affected the socially accepted epidemic
of behaviors that scream out the tranny or normalcy.
While the professional support has been sourly lacking , people powered support
when I need it here.. An inference by one son that life experience had made me
independent , missing the abuse totally as survivors, and conditioned to feel
I don’t deserve anything , for I am nothing in the eyes of ‘family’ that belongs
Just as a 13 plus year of a misdiagnosis of mental illness , denied from day one
as I described being hit , recorded in medical files , was ignored . The medication were
and are toxic; ignored , just give ,me more . up down, high low, I was a legalized
‘junkie ” and physically and emotionally so ill , it often was hell on earth.
Of course the nightmare existence of trauma from rape and denial by silence of
that event in a 5 year old mind is as science has proved , is a state of hypnotic
until age 5/6.
All the more reason to do our best to have more natural normal homes where
children are safe to aide parents in healing traumas of childhoods that only
joy filled children bring to us only needing our support for nurture and nature ,
the mother and the father , and those supports can be filled by male or
female but we know our Mom’s from her shelter of our beginnings .
Trauma , lack of bonding ,sensitivity to medications and standards and practices
that are accepted medical practice do not allow the deep psychological damage
and not yet acknowledged by mainstream as a huge factor for the non resistance
of a male who senses Mother from who he has been protected by has ‘allowed’ his
most sensitive self to be snipped , often to disastrous results.
And that detachment from Mother , witnessing Domestic Abuse , being shamed
as children when acceptance of peers and family is extreme more nails in my
coffin as it were as when I began to wake from the invountary addiction, I was
mad. I experienced many slurs , total rejection, non support by those who are
grouped to do so, and slowly I began to design my life to suit my needs of healing
and in that I have been blessed by a community of life experienced , lessoned and
educated healers who are creative and accepting .
Domestic Terrorism is the issue and the many influences that take us from who we
The more accepted narcissi mentality, is pervasive and much like a pathogen
that must be eradicated . As Dr Craig Childress discussed the DSM codes that do
apply to the child abused via Parental Alienation/Child Abuse and how the “uncle/aunt
parent has done much harm by demanding exclusive domain of all; a continuation
of domestic abuse. Healing of the child is most effective with attachment rather than
detached parenting. It should be noted that a trauma unhealed can lend it self to
personality ‘splitting’ as a coping mechanism which I certainly allowed as a sister
and then as a wife ; but the inference was always that I was to blame and extended to
extended family and friends . Sons were subjected to shame and detachment , extended
also but were ready to be liberated from very unhealthy home life and the manifestations
and evocation of trauma that could be primal but never the black eyed monster that has
supported the victim/hero who survived and raised 3 young men who are successful, and
as always keeps them in play , against me in his never ending self hatred , and inability
to step out and up.
He is happy in that state of control.
Gas lighting is normal to him as his non acceptance, of compassion , that he could master
self love, self forgiveness and heal many hurts that he has never allowed voicing for he
has no trust , not even for himself , feeling unworthy , he depends on what he has
rather than who he is . No one can fix him and his critic is self , with many recording
of trauma as a child , he denies .
Codes that govern marriage and families is in need of addressing facts impartially and
that benefits all concerned instead of the expense and triangulation that further causes
and supports the abuse that is often denied . As a ‘non working’ Mom my voice was not
important , as the discrimination of the living connection science explains does exist
as DNA has a life time shelf life . how much more mentally cruel can it get to ignore
her abuse , toxically drug her and then remove all she knows from her , for self
happiness that gets worse with each passing year.
Yes liberation is near , and I don’t expect immediate reverbs but change is upon those
families impacted by the repercussions of Domestic Terrorist.