Know this well
Punishing By Banishing You
The silent treatment (feigned apathy; cold-shoulder; silence; distance, and ignoring you) is the worst form of emotional abuse. It is a punishment used by abusers to make you feel unimportant, not valued, not cared about and completely absent from the abuser’s thoughts.
It is used as a form of non-physical punishment and control because the abuser mistakenly thinks that if they don’t physically harm you then they are not abusers. The truth is, they are far worse at doling out abuse than the physical abuser. Silent treatment is a form of banishing someone from the abuser’s existence without the benefit of closure or a good-bye or a chance at reconciliation. In a word … it’s meant to torture someone you profess to love.
No Second Chance
Should I meet someone again who uses this tactic just once he will not get another chance. Because the silent treatment is something that the abuser repeats over and over again. The silent treatment is CONTROL, and a safe means for them to avoid any ‘uncomfortable’ topics, issues in the relationship, or issues within himself (or herself).
The silent treatment is a method the abuser uses to ‘kill’ you for something you have done. In a sense, you have been psychologically ‘murdered’ by them, but your physical life goes on.
In one way though, the silent treatment is far worse than other forms of abuse, because it indirectly says to you that you are not a person, that you are just a mere object, that you are invisible because they choose to make you so, and that you are not worthy of their time. THAT is one of the most hurtful and abusive things to do in my book. It is a horrible feeling, being ignored and denied affection. You should NEVER tolerate it.
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